So when this video I would like to share with you an absolutely crucial life lesson and this is a crucial
lesson a crucial bit of understanding that if you embrace and absorb of into yourself is going to help
you to understand people forward go down the road of looking at the Life Coaching models and the principles
and the fees and the practices and the communication skills and the language pattern and all this kind
of stuff all that stuff's good.
But this is actually all about understanding people which if we don't get well all of the principles
and practices or the greatest models and techniques in the world are not going to make the slightest
bit of difference.
Saw here.
We're going to discuss perception and I want to get this in the first section of the course because
perception for most people is absolutely everything.
In our video i suggested that most people live their lives inside of their own minds.
Most people genuinely believe what they think is the absolute truth of the time.
All of the time though if you think about it this is a real problem alright because a certain someone
I shall name names has just been voted in as the president of the United States.
No I don't have any opinions about this because none of us are perfect Me included.
All right.
No this guy has some opinions some world views that he's no good to build into the foundations of what
it means to be an American.
I know where these things are good or bad are going to be down to the perception of individuals because
in the last presidential elections I do believe that the split was pretty much 50/50.
There are thereabouts around about 50 percent voted for rather than read about 50 percent 44 Blue which
means two different types of people have two entirely contrasting perceptions no who's right or who's
wrong.
That's not really the question here.
It's what's your perception.
Because how you see things will ultimately determine what are this you want to believe and what you
believe or ultimately then go on to determine how the rest of your life goes what you believe will determine
the choices that you make the things that you see.
Yes two things are you no to how you communicate and interact with other people is going to view how
you use as going to the terminal and then influence how you see other people.
Perception is everything.
No there's this really funny idea this stems from the realms of new linguistic programming and this
is that in life people never respond or react to reality that they ever respond or react to their perception
of reality.
So people don't are in life very very seldom react to respond to what's actually going on.
They will never respond react to what they think's going on or what they fear may go one at some point
in the future.
No core fundamental beliefs of the Course are suggested that no was broken.
But yet if you were to go into a medical practitioners office a doctor or a nurse or a hospital and
say to them what is anxiety they're going to tell you that anxiety is unmet it's a mental illness it's
a disease that people can contract that breaks people.
It's a mental illness.
These people they're broken people with new linguistic programming and and life coaching doesn't really
except up winner really willing to embrace that as true because if people were broken then what that
means is that they need people to fix them.
And people need other people to fix them and that deems them as being helpless victims.
And that's not an empowered mindset.
That's not one that we would ever want to endorse or promote.
So I share all of this is because see for example someone was anxious about the future.
If you think about the anxiety is a fear based emotion you can't get anxious about things that have
happened in the past because they've happened.
There's no point about being scared that this thing happened in the past.
No you can get scared about things that have happened in the past.
You can feel happy or sad about things that have happened in the past and in a short while.
There's a lot more detail later on in one of the next sections you can all if you are prehensile or
anxious or paranoid or concerned or worried about things that may or may not happen in the future and
how you feel about those things that may or may not happen in the future are going to be determined
by how you perceive the world.
What your expectations are in life.
Most people leave most of their lives inside of their own minds.
No I don't know where all of this sits with you.
If you're really analytical you may be agreeing maybe disagreeing but I'm going to share with you a
story to help you see what I see here.
Hopefully bring you into alignment.
Here we are in fundamental agreement or I know there is a guy sitting on a train.
This guy was a father of two.
And on the train the two children were just running up and down the centre aisle with the Howard's suites
and they were chasing each other making quite a lot of noise at the top end of the carriage.
There was another guy sitting there trying to read his newspaper.
He just had a really busy day at work.
He was tyred and he was grumpy.
As these two children were running up and down as he was starting to become distracted he was beginning
to get frustrated to the point where he snapped.
He lost his temper he stood up and he walked up the centre of the train and approached the firing of
the two children who he said Are you completely unaware of the destruction and the noise that your children
are making you think you're a terrible father.
I think I perceive you as being a terrible father.
I think you should get your children under control right now.
And upon seeing the guy who was sent in there the father of the two children looked up with tears in
his eyes.
I said um hum.
I'm really really sorry.
I didn't mean to offend.
We we've actually just come from the funeral of the children's mother.
To be honest with you I can barely even think straight.
I don't know what to say to my children.
Hers just died.
I don't know how to be a mother.
No.
How do you think that angry man's perception changed as he was faced with a little bit of truth.
Because what he initially believed was that this guy the father was a dad letting his kids run up and
down the train being completely unruly.
And now he's just received some new information.
How will his perception have changed.
Know how his perception will have changed me or not changed is by the by because this is just a story.
But what I would like you to do know is just take a couple of moments to consider something in your
life a relationship in your life that isn't quite working out the way that you would like it to work
out.
You may feel that someone's really offended you or are gone against you in some way.
Know that would really like you to do know is spend the next five to 10 minutes seeing if you can see
this problem that you're looking at from their perspective see if there's anything any information that
you might not have.
Is there any information that you could ask for from them.
Is there any chance whatsoever that you may have jumped to an incorrect conclusion because if there's
any chance that you have jumped to turn incorrect conclusion in some way.
Well this is judgment and judgment within itself is a fantastic way off completely destroying the trust
in any relationship.
No it may be the case that you know you don't have this problem in which case carry on to the next video.
But take a few moments here just to reflect on yourself some relationships just to see if there's any
any conclusions that you've come up with about anyone else you currently know in your life that you
may have gotten wrong in some way.
Is your perception true and accurate or may be slightly misled.
Marvel all can see.
And I look forward to seeing again the next video.